She makes more money … and?

It happened again. You and your wife were out at a neighbor’s house enjoying the small talk and the fondue when one of your fellow husbands takes a little jab at you for not being the breadwinner of your family. It’s not a secret. Not that there is a sign posted on your lawn or anything, but it’s she’s a corporate lawyer and you’re a high school professor. She makes more money. Maybe it doesn’t usually bother you. Maybe it does but you normally manage to let it go. Either way this dude has struck a nerve and now you’re irrationally angry at your wife … [Read more...]

If he’s broke, is she gone?

Like many things in life, having money isn’t a binary condition. There are many shades of gray that color the world of wealth and finance. Just like you can be comfortable, well-off, movie star, Kardashian, or Bill Gates … you can also find yourself in any number of pegs on the other side of the sliding scale. But for many women, it’s not about the money he has, it’s about his attitude about the money he has. There is a big difference. Blowing his coin on crap without regard to his bills or his future can be a bigger turn off than not having a lot of … [Read more...]

Does she who makes the money make the rules?

Well? Does she? If you respect your partner, then no. It seems like the easy way to do things, she puts the zeroes in the bank account, so she gets to decide how it’s spent, but that’s going to breed a lot of resentment in your relationship. Flash back to the fifties and think of all those women who didn’t have a say in all of the matters of the house because they didn’t contribute to the bank account, and well … because they were women. Didn’t we storm out of the kitchen and burn our bras in an attempt to banish this type of thinking? The … [Read more...]

Bad Investments

Too many people hang on to bad relationships because they have convinced themselves that somewhere down the line it will pay off. They refuse to dump bad stock because they see potential, even if no one else does. A savvy business woman can recognize a poor investment early on and knows that it is in her best interest to walk away. How can you tell if your relationship is a bad investment?   There’s no movement. You make the calls. You plant the dates. He is just along for the ride. No one wants to date a dead fish, if he isn’t making moves … [Read more...]

There’s something under your rug…

I get it, you don’t want to deal with it. You’ve had a long day, a longer week, and you just aren’t in the mood to have this fight right now, so you grab your trusty broom and sweep the issue under the proverbial rug, you’ll clean it up later. Allow me to point out the big pink elephant under the rug, if you keep sweeping everything under that carpet, you’re going to trip over it. When you are angry and you can’t keep your fighting words under control, go ahead and give into the urge to walk away and get yourself together. Calmer heads have a better … [Read more...]

A Salvaged Title

Bumpy road. Rough seas. Turbulent skies. There are any number of ways to express the difficult times you are going through with your significant other, but basically you're going through hell because you're fighting all the time. You fight over money, you fight over household chores, you fight over what little time you have for each other and how you just want to come home and crawl into bed without being nagged. All of that can be worked through. Every couple goes through this at some point, even the happiest of them. The difference between the couples … [Read more...]

Dirty Talk

There are a lot of ways a minor disagreement can turn into an all-out battle, and the quickest way for that to happen is by dropping the relationship A-bomb, which in this case means using the word “always” or conversely “never” when describing a particular behavior or action of your partner. Those are dirty little words that will get you in trouble, and not the kind of trouble that well get you a sexy little spanking. They are fighting words, capable of transforming a simple discussion into a battle akin to the invasion of Normandy. These words, as … [Read more...]