Wedding Bells

Well, Spring is here, and so with it begins wedding season. When I imagine wedding season, I often picture the TV show Bridezillas. To be honest, I don’t like the show, I’ve tried to watch it a couple of times but I rarely get more than five minutes in before I’m yelling at the groom to run away. I get that weddings are stressful and expensive and can bring out the worst in anyone but those monsters aren't just terrorizing a wedding party, they are attacking a whole damn town. Watch out Tokyo, you're next. Most women from an early age have an idea of … [Read more...]

Don’t be that guy.

I’ve dated that guy. We met, he was funny, edgy, played guitar. We started dating then he lost his job. We had only been in a relationship for a few months and I didn’t want to be that girl who bails on him when he hits a speed bump going too fast and skids off the road. So I tried to stick it out. At first we tried the couch date life, but that got old super fast, so I decided if I wanted to get out and do things, I would have to exercise my bank account. I put it to good use and we maintained a pretty good dating life, and I was only mildly resentful. … [Read more...]

Gift Giving: It Shouldn’t Break the Bank

What do you get the girl who already has everything? How do you make a big deal out of her birthday, or your anniversary (or Valentine’s Day if you two are waiting for this weekend to celebrate it) without blowing your budget to bits and pieces? Assuming your woman isn’t one of those rare specimens that says she doesn’t want a gift, and actually means it, then it is important to celebrate the occasion with a little showmanship and at least something she can open. It’s not about the money you spend on it … well … we all know the cliché. It seems … [Read more...]

She makes more money … and?

It happened again. You and your wife were out at a neighbor’s house enjoying the small talk and the fondue when one of your fellow husbands takes a little jab at you for not being the breadwinner of your family. It’s not a secret. Not that there is a sign posted on your lawn or anything, but it’s she’s a corporate lawyer and you’re a high school professor. She makes more money. Maybe it doesn’t usually bother you. Maybe it does but you normally manage to let it go. Either way this dude has struck a nerve and now you’re irrationally angry at your wife … [Read more...]

If he’s broke, is she gone?

Like many things in life, having money isn’t a binary condition. There are many shades of gray that color the world of wealth and finance. Just like you can be comfortable, well-off, movie star, Kardashian, or Bill Gates … you can also find yourself in any number of pegs on the other side of the sliding scale. But for many women, it’s not about the money he has, it’s about his attitude about the money he has. There is a big difference. Blowing his coin on crap without regard to his bills or his future can be a bigger turn off than not having a lot of … [Read more...]

Does she who makes the money make the rules?

Well? Does she? If you respect your partner, then no. It seems like the easy way to do things, she puts the zeroes in the bank account, so she gets to decide how it’s spent, but that’s going to breed a lot of resentment in your relationship. Flash back to the fifties and think of all those women who didn’t have a say in all of the matters of the house because they didn’t contribute to the bank account, and well … because they were women. Didn’t we storm out of the kitchen and burn our bras in an attempt to banish this type of thinking? The … [Read more...]

Think Outside the Bank Account

For all the men out there dating a woman who makes more money … Dating a woman who makes more money than you isn't that different than dating one who makes less. They both want the same thing out of dating. To be pursued. To feel sexy and desired. You can accomplish this even if you don’t have access to Scrooge McDuck’s bank vault. It all boils down to effort. Regardless of her financial standing, don’t be that guy that suggests a Dutch date at the beginning of the relationship. Instead, figure out a way to stand out without relying on your wallet. … [Read more...]