I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T

Do you know what that means? Well, if Destiny’s Child have any say, it means she bought her own shoes, clothes, jewelry, house, car, and hell … the watch you’re wearing if she damn well pleases. It means that she is fully capable of taking care of herself. Some men shy away from the often feared independent woman because, what can become of the relationship if she doesn’t need him? The problem is, no woman is an island. Sure, we can bring home the low-fat, turkey bacon, and scramble it into an egg-white omelet. We can even clean our own house, raise … [Read more...]

Don’t be that guy.

I’ve dated that guy. We met, he was funny, edgy, played guitar. We started dating then he lost his job. We had only been in a relationship for a few months and I didn’t want to be that girl who bails on him when he hits a speed bump going too fast and skids off the road. So I tried to stick it out. At first we tried the couch date life, but that got old super fast, so I decided if I wanted to get out and do things, I would have to exercise my bank account. I put it to good use and we maintained a pretty good dating life, and I was only mildly resentful. … [Read more...]

Gift Giving: It Shouldn’t Break the Bank

What do you get the girl who already has everything? How do you make a big deal out of her birthday, or your anniversary (or Valentine’s Day if you two are waiting for this weekend to celebrate it) without blowing your budget to bits and pieces? Assuming your woman isn’t one of those rare specimens that says she doesn’t want a gift, and actually means it, then it is important to celebrate the occasion with a little showmanship and at least something she can open. It’s not about the money you spend on it … well … we all know the cliché. It seems … [Read more...]

She works hard for the money …

So hard for it honey … and now it seems she doesn’t have that much time for you. How do you let your girlfriend know that you want her to make a little more space for you in her life without coming off as clingy and needy? First of all, let’s be clear. Asking for what you want isn’t clingy, it’s how people get their needs met. Clingy is blowing up her phone if she takes more than ten minutes to get back to you. Clingy is expecting your girlfriend to spend every waking moment talking to you or texting you or being with you or at least thinking about … [Read more...]

If he’s broke, is she gone?

Like many things in life, having money isn’t a binary condition. There are many shades of gray that color the world of wealth and finance. Just like you can be comfortable, well-off, movie star, Kardashian, or Bill Gates … you can also find yourself in any number of pegs on the other side of the sliding scale. But for many women, it’s not about the money he has, it’s about his attitude about the money he has. There is a big difference. Blowing his coin on crap without regard to his bills or his future can be a bigger turn off than not having a lot of … [Read more...]

Does she who makes the money make the rules?

Well? Does she? If you respect your partner, then no. It seems like the easy way to do things, she puts the zeroes in the bank account, so she gets to decide how it’s spent, but that’s going to breed a lot of resentment in your relationship. Flash back to the fifties and think of all those women who didn’t have a say in all of the matters of the house because they didn’t contribute to the bank account, and well … because they were women. Didn’t we storm out of the kitchen and burn our bras in an attempt to banish this type of thinking? The … [Read more...]

Bad Investments

Too many people hang on to bad relationships because they have convinced themselves that somewhere down the line it will pay off. They refuse to dump bad stock because they see potential, even if no one else does. A savvy business woman can recognize a poor investment early on and knows that it is in her best interest to walk away. How can you tell if your relationship is a bad investment?   There’s no movement. You make the calls. You plant the dates. He is just along for the ride. No one wants to date a dead fish, if he isn’t making moves … [Read more...]