Ready … Set … FIGHT!

You’ve been there, you’re having a minor disagreement with your spouse over who is right and who needs to shut up when an ill-timed eye roll causes the whole exchange to take a nasty turn and now the shit has hit the fan. You are screaming at each other and it’s taking everything you have not to chuck your coffee mug right at his stubborn, fat head. When avoiding conflict is no longer an option, you are left with finding a resolution that doesn’t include ripping your own arm off and beating your partner to death with it. How do you end the battle … [Read more...]

She works hard for the money …

So hard for it honey … and now it seems she doesn’t have that much time for you. How do you let your girlfriend know that you want her to make a little more space for you in her life without coming off as clingy and needy? First of all, let’s be clear. Asking for what you want isn’t clingy, it’s how people get their needs met. Clingy is blowing up her phone if she takes more than ten minutes to get back to you. Clingy is expecting your girlfriend to spend every waking moment talking to you or texting you or being with you or at least thinking about … [Read more...]

She makes more money … and?

It happened again. You and your wife were out at a neighbor’s house enjoying the small talk and the fondue when one of your fellow husbands takes a little jab at you for not being the breadwinner of your family. It’s not a secret. Not that there is a sign posted on your lawn or anything, but it’s she’s a corporate lawyer and you’re a high school professor. She makes more money. Maybe it doesn’t usually bother you. Maybe it does but you normally manage to let it go. Either way this dude has struck a nerve and now you’re irrationally angry at your wife … [Read more...]

If he’s broke, is she gone?

Like many things in life, having money isn’t a binary condition. There are many shades of gray that color the world of wealth and finance. Just like you can be comfortable, well-off, movie star, Kardashian, or Bill Gates … you can also find yourself in any number of pegs on the other side of the sliding scale. But for many women, it’s not about the money he has, it’s about his attitude about the money he has. There is a big difference. Blowing his coin on crap without regard to his bills or his future can be a bigger turn off than not having a lot of … [Read more...]

Does she who makes the money make the rules?

Well? Does she? If you respect your partner, then no. It seems like the easy way to do things, she puts the zeroes in the bank account, so she gets to decide how it’s spent, but that’s going to breed a lot of resentment in your relationship. Flash back to the fifties and think of all those women who didn’t have a say in all of the matters of the house because they didn’t contribute to the bank account, and well … because they were women. Didn’t we storm out of the kitchen and burn our bras in an attempt to banish this type of thinking? The … [Read more...]