There’s something under your rug…

Husband And Wife Doing DishesI get it, you don’t want to deal with it. You’ve had a long day, a longer week, and you just aren’t in the mood to have this fight right now, so you grab your trusty broom and sweep the issue under the proverbial rug, you’ll clean it up later. Allow me to point out the big pink elephant under the rug, if you keep sweeping everything under that carpet, you’re going to trip over it.

When you are angry and you can’t keep your fighting words under control, go ahead and give into the urge to walk away and get yourself together. Calmer heads have a better chance to find resolution, but make sure to return and deal the issue, don’t just walk away and think that’s all you need to do. There is a difference between cooling off and just ignoring the issue. It doesn’t go away, it doesn’t magically clean itself up, there are no little relationship elves that flutter around your bedroom at night and solve your and your partner’s problems while you sleep.

So, when the fight or flight instinct arises in you because your partner is storming down the hall with the wet towel you left on the floor again, leave the dust pan and broom in the kitchen and talk it out. After all, eventually those rugs are going to run out of room and you are left to clean up mountains of mess … or move.


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